Download and read online Emotional Vampires Dealing with People Who Drain You Dry Revised and Expanded 2nd Edition in PDF and EPUB Protect yourself from people who take undue advantage and suck the energy out of your life Emotional Vampires will help you cope effectively with the people in your life that confound you, confuse you, and seem to sap every ounce of your energy. Bestselling author Dr. Al Bernstein shows you how to recognize each vampire type--antisocial, histrionic, narcissists, obsessive-compulsives, paranoids--and deal with them effectively. He uses many examples from the latest news headlines, which will help you distinguish between the types and deepen your understanding of each one. In response to the daily calls and emails he got about the previous edition of this book, Dr. Al Bernstein has added his advice for dealing with those emotional vampires who come in the shape of spouses and lovers, relatives, and children. Dr. Bernstein shows you how to deal with each vampire type and what you need to do to keep from getting drained.
Download and read online Emotional Vampires Dealing with People Who Drain You Dry Revised and Expanded 2nd Edition in PDF and EPUB Details a range of personality disorders that can be emotionally draining for a partner to deal with, including antisocial, obsessive-compulsive, and paranoid behavior, and presents strategies for mending and avoiding bad relationships.
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Download and read online Dinosaur Brains in PDF and EPUB Discover how to cope with instinct, emotion, and irrationality--the dinosaur brain--that disrupts any business enivronment, with a step-by-step process that helps you reason your way through turf wars and power struggles, surly subordinates, temperamental bosses, and more.... "The key to thriving in the corporate jungle is understanding dinosaurs." TIME From the Paperback edition.
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Download and read online Difficult Personalities in PDF and EPUB Do you have a difficult personality in your life? Would others consider that you are their difficult person? In this book we have turned the microscope on difficult types of personalities and patterns of behaviour, which range from annoying and confusing to the seriously damaging. Like most of us, you have probably encountered situations with family, friends, workmates or associates who have hurt you. Either they have damaged you emotionally or financially, or their behaviour has caused ongoing distress or worry. Understanding how people think and knowing some of the reasons for their patterns of hurtful behaviour will take you part of the way to handling your difficult relationships more successfully. People sometimes do not reciprocate our feelings, fail to appreciate our worth, fall out of love with us, betray, leave, retrench or disappoint us. These are all part of the pain of being human and do not necessarily reflect people being difficult. But some people have ongoing behaviour patterns which hurt many others. They leave behind more than one hurt or troubled person because of their difficult personalities. Some people have a mildly difficult behaviour pattern while others have moderate or very difficult behaviour patterns, and the effect of these patterns on others may also range from minor to severe. Here are some of the guiding principles we have used in identifying and elaborating on these difficult patterns.
Download and read online The Lucifer Effect in PDF and EPUB In The Lucifer Effect, the award-winning and internationally respected psychologist, Philip Zimbardo, examines how the human mind has the capacity to be infinitely caring or selfish, kind or cruel, creative or destructive. He challenges our conceptions of who we think we are, what we believe we will never do - and how and why almost any of us could be initiated into the ranks of evil doers. At the same time he describes the safeguards we can put in place to prevent ourselves from corrupting - or being corrupted by - others, and what sets some people apart as heroes and heroines, able to resist powerful pressures to go along with the group, and to refuse to be team players when personal integrity is at stake. Using the first in-depth analysis of his classic Stanford Prison Experiment, and his personal experiences as an expert witness for one of the Abu Ghraib prison guards, Zimbardo's stimulating and provocative book raises fundamental questions about the nature of good and evil, and how each one of us needs to be vigilant to prevent becoming trapped in the 'Lucifer Effect', no matter what kind of character or morality we believe ourselves to have. The Lucifer Effect won the William James Book Award in 2008.
Download and read online Hysterical Personality Style and the Histrionic Personality Disorder in PDF and EPUB This revised edition of the classic work on the hysterical personality begins with a new chapter, introducing the core characteristics of the hysterical personality disorder and providing a framework for the reader that changes and is enlarged in each successive chapter. The second chapter deals with the fundamental diagnostic and formulative issues. The third considers the development of the disorder in terms of childhood and adolescent antecedents. Basic treatment principles are presented in the fourth chapter, and the change process in reschematizing psychological treatment is addressed in the fifth. This last chapter presents a case in detail, indicating development of schemas of self and others; showing how core aspects of personality may change as a consequence of new forms of relationships and new uses of conscious thought.
Download and read online In Sheep s Clothing in PDF and EPUB Modern permissiveness and the new culture of entitlement allows disturbed people to reach adulthood without proper socialization. In a book meant both for the general public and for professionals, bestselling author and psychologist George Simon explains in plain English: -How most disturbed characters think. -The habitual behaviors the disturbed use to avoid responsibility and to manipulate, deceive, and exploit others. -Why victims in relationships with disturbed characters do not get help they need from traditional therapies. -A straightforward guide to recognizing and understanding all relevant personality types, especially those most likely to undermine relationships. -A new framework for making sense of the crazy world many find themselves in when there's a disturbed character in their lives. -Concrete principles that promote responsibility and positive change when engaging disturbed characters. -Tactics (for both lay persons and therapists) to lessen the chances for victimization and empower those who would otherwise be victims in their relationships with many types of disturbed characters.
Download and read online The Curmudgeon s Guide to Getting Ahead in PDF and EPUB A whimsical guide to workplace etiquette shares real-world advice on everything from political correctness and good writing to thinking critically and treating others with respect. By the author of the best-selling Coming Apart.
Download and read online Dealing with People You Can t Stand Revised and Expanded Third Edition How to Bring Out the Best in People at Their Worst in PDF and EPUB The classic guide to bringing out the best in people at their worst—updated with even more can’t-standable people! Dealing with People You Can’t Stand has been helping good people deal with bad behavior in a positive, professional way for nearly two decades. Unfortunately, as the world becomes smaller and time more compressed, new difficult people are being made all the time. So Kirschner and Brinkman have updated their global bestseller to help you wring positive results from even the most twisted interactions you’re likely to experience today. Learn how to get things done and get along when you’re dealing with people who have the uncanny ability to sabotage, derail, and interfere with your plans, needs, and wants. Learn how to: Use sophisticated listening techniques to unlock the doors to people’ s minds, hearts, and deepest needs Apply “take-charge” skills that turn conflict into cooperation by reducing the differences between people Transform the destructive behavior of Tanks, Snipers, Know-It-Alls, Whiners, Martyrs, Meddlers, and other difficult types of people This enhanced eBook includes features you won’t find in the print edition, including: 7 comic book style presentations embedded with audio that depict different scenarios of dealing with toxic personalities—illustrating tips and strategies for making the best of the situation 16 entertaining and engaging videos showing how to resolve conflict situations with demonstrated positive and negative strategies Link to the Lens-of-Understanding Self-Assessment you can complete to evaluate your relationships with people in your life Access to a 27-minute audio of the authors explaining on how to change your overall attitude, so you can use the tools in the book even more effectively Whether you’re dealing with a coworker trying to take credit for your work, a distant family member who knows no personal bounds, or a loud cell phone talker on line at the grocery store, Dealing with People You Can’t Stand gives you the tools for bringing out the best in people at their worst.
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