Download and read online Who s Pulling Your Strings How to Break the Cycle of Manipulation and Regain Control of Your Life in PDF and EPUB A powerful program to stop manipulators in their tracks In Who's Pulling Your Strings?, Dr. Harriet B. Braiker, New York Times bestselling author of The Disease to Please, explains how depression, low self-esteem, anger, and feelings of helplessness can be caused by relationships with manipulative people. She exposes the most common methods of manipulators, and with the help of selfassessment quizzes, action plans, and how-to exercises, she helps you recognize and end the manipulative cycle for good.
Download and read online The Disease to Please Curing the People Pleasing Syndrome in PDF and EPUB What's wrong with being a "people pleaser?" Plenty! "A fascinating book... If you struggle with where, when, and how to draw the line between your own desires and the demands of others, buy this book!"Kay Redfield Jamison, bestselling author of An Unquiet Mind and Night Falls Fast People pleasers are not just nice people who go overboard trying to make everyone happy. Those who suffer from the Disease to Please are people who say "Yes" when they really want to say "No." For them, the uncontrollable need for the elusive approval of others is an addiction. Their debilitating fears of anger and confrontation force them to use "niceness" and "people-pleasing" as self-defense camouflage. Featured on NBC's "Today," The Disease to Please explodes the dangerous myth that "people pleasing" is a benign problem. Best-selling author and frequent "Oprah" guest Dr. Harriet Braiker offers clear, positive, practical, and easily do-able steps toward recovery. Begin with a simple but revealing quiz to discover what type of people-pleaser you are. Then learn how making even small changes to any single portion of the Disease to Please Triangle - involving your thoughts, feelings, and behavior - will cause a dramatic, positive and long-lasting change to the overall syndrome. As a recovered peoplepleaser, you will finally see that a balanced way of living that takes others into consideration but puts the emphasis first on pleasing yourself and gaining your own approval is the clearest path to health and happiness.
Download and read online In Sheep s Clothing in PDF and EPUB Modern permissiveness and the new culture of entitlement allows disturbed people to reach adulthood without proper socialization. In a book meant both for the general public and for professionals, bestselling author and psychologist George Simon explains in plain English: -How most disturbed characters think. -The habitual behaviors the disturbed use to avoid responsibility and to manipulate, deceive, and exploit others. -Why victims in relationships with disturbed characters do not get help they need from traditional therapies. -A straightforward guide to recognizing and understanding all relevant personality types, especially those most likely to undermine relationships. -A new framework for making sense of the crazy world many find themselves in when there's a disturbed character in their lives. -Concrete principles that promote responsibility and positive change when engaging disturbed characters. -Tactics (for both lay persons and therapists) to lessen the chances for victimization and empower those who would otherwise be victims in their relationships with many types of disturbed characters.
Download and read online SUBCLINICAL PSYCHOPATHS in PDF and EPUB It is estimated that psychopaths make up about 1 percent of the general population. They do everything that a normal person does, with the exception that they possess no empathy and/or conscience toward others, are highly skilled in the art of manipulation, and they have no compunction using others to get what they want and are masters at it. This book is intended for mental health professionals who want to know more about a phenomenon that is both fascinating and scary and who seek to gain information about a topic that, thus far, has received scant attention from researchers. The authors focus on a number of different areas concerning subclinical psychopathy, with some chapters being more technical than others primarily due to the nature of the data reported. Chapters include: An Introduction to Subclinical Psychopathy; A Short History of Psychopathy; What is Subclinical Psychopathy?; The Psychopathic Brain; Child and Adolescent Psychopaths; Interpersonal Relationships; Personality Factors—How to Detect Psychopaths; Treatment for Psychopathy; and How to Deal with the Psychopath in Your Life. While the book is not a treatise on subclinical psychopathy, after reading it, readers will walk away with a better understanding of the subject.
Download and read online Tapping the Wisdom That Surrounds You Mentorship and Women in PDF and EPUB Are you seeking the perfect mentor or life adviser—an ideal guide, no matter what the challenge? This book provides a unique and new road map for a modern world, demonstrating that the wisdom we seek surrounds us at every turn. • Presents a collection of true stories by real women describing their actual experiences that will benefit and speak to any career-minded professional, women and men alike • Provides key insights into the mentee (protégé)-to-mentor relationship, including how, when, and why effective mentorship does or does not happen and how to develop a mindset that attracts successful role models • Helps readers to recognize and gather evidence that enables them to counter the negative messages and obstacles that confront career-driven women
Download and read online Executive Advantage in PDF and EPUB The pressures on executives to succeed, both internal and external, are intense. They are constantly fighting to make sense of their changing worlds and to make the right decisions for themselves, their teams and their business. Executive Advantage gives ambitious leaders the powerful strategies they need to become authentic 21st century leaders. It makes sense of the complexities faced by organizations, especially in the face of aggressive growth or, conversely, recession and downsizing. Any change presents challenges and it's the leader's role to tackle these head on. Understanding human needs, and the consequences of not meeting these needs, is key to effective handling of change, conflict and executive 'gremlins', the barriers and sticking points that can get in the way of optimal business performance. Leadership expert Jacqui Grey presents a 10 step solution for leaders who are looking to make a real difference in their business.
Download and read online The Need to Please in PDF and EPUB Do you have a hard time saying no to others, no matter how outrageous their requests? If so, you might be a chronic people-pleaser. Unfortunately, because we live in a society that praises putting the needs of others before ourselves, it can be difficult to break this bad habit. And while thinking of others is always commendable, there is a fine line between sacrifice and senseless approval seeking. In The Need to Please, a leading mindfulness expert and psychotherapist provides compassionate, mindfulness-based techniques that will help chronic people-pleasers like you address and overcome your fears of failure, inappropriate self-sacrificing, loss of personal identity, and voracious need of approval. In addition, you will learn to put an end to the codependent behaviors that lie at the heart of being a people-pleaser. Change is hard—especially when it means going against years of social conditioning. But if you’re ready to “Just Say No,” to others’ demands and start saying, “Yes” to your own needs, this book can help. You can find out more about these mindfulness techniques at www.livingmindfully.org.
Download and read online Becoming the Narcissist s Nightmare in PDF and EPUB Although clinical research has been conducted on narcissism as a disorder, less is known about its effects on victims who are in toxic relationships with partners with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Individuals with this disorder engage in chronic devaluation and manipulation of their partners, a psychological and emotional phenomenon known as "narcissistic abuse." Unfortunately, the full extent of what narcissistic abuse entails is not taught in any psychology class or diagnostic manual. In this book, survivors will learn: •The red flags of narcissistic behavior and covert manipulation tactics, including subtle signs many survivors don't catch in the early stages of dating a narcissist. •The motives behind narcissistic abuse and techniques to resist a narcissist's manipulation. •Why abuse survivors usually stay with a narcissist long after incidents of abuse occur. •How our own brain chemistry locks us into an addiction with a narcissistic or toxic partner, creating cravings for the constant chaos of the abuse cycle. •Traditional and alternative methods to begin to detach and heal from the addiction to the narcissist, including eleven important steps all survivors must take on the road to healing. •Methods to rewrite the narratives that abusers have written for us so we can begin to reconnect with our authentic selves and purpose. •How to rebuild an even more victorious and empowering life after abuse.
Download and read online Lethal Lovers and Poisonous People in PDF and EPUB ARE YOU INVOLVED IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP? The symptoms vary from stomach pains to blinding headaches, from chronic backaches to severe colds… The causes are varied—from a spouse who is withdrawing sexually, to a parent who is overly critical, to a lover who isn’t “ready” to commit, to a boss who is abusive… There are periods of stress in every relationship, but psychological studies reveal that some relationships can reach poisonous levels of toxic emotions—and that our response to these stresses can be harmful to our emotional and physical health. Are you involved in such a relationship? If so, what can you do about it? Lethal Lovers and Poisonous People shows you!
Download and read online Emotional Vampires Dealing with People Who Drain You Dry Revised and Expanded 2nd Edition in PDF and EPUB Protect yourself from people who take undue advantage and suck the energy out of your life Emotional Vampires will help you cope effectively with the people in your life that confound you, confuse you, and seem to sap every ounce of your energy. Bestselling author Dr. Al Bernstein shows you how to recognize each vampire type--antisocial, histrionic, narcissists, obsessive-compulsives, paranoids--and deal with them effectively. He uses many examples from the latest news headlines, which will help you distinguish between the types and deepen your understanding of each one. In response to the daily calls and emails he got about the previous edition of this book, Dr. Al Bernstein has added his advice for dealing with those emotional vampires who come in the shape of spouses and lovers, relatives, and children. Dr. Bernstein shows you how to deal with each vampire type and what you need to do to keep from getting drained.
Download and read online Emotional Blackmail in PDF and EPUB "If you really loved me..." "After all I've done for you..." "How can you be so selfish..." Do any of the above sound familiar? They're all examples of emotional blackmail, a powerful form of manipulation in which people close to us threaten to punish us for not doing what they want. Emotional blackmailers know how much we value our relationships with them. They know our vulnerabilities and our deepest secrets. They are our mothers, our partners, our bosses and coworkers, our friends and our lovers. And no matter how much they care about us, they use this intimate knowledge to give themselves the payoff they want: our compliance. Susan Forward knows what pushes our hot buttons. Just as John Gray illuminates the communications gap between the sexes in Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, and Harriet Lerner describes an intricate dynamic in The Dance of Anger, so Susan Forward presents the anatomy of a relationship damaged by manipulation, and gives readers an arsenal of tools to fight back. In her clear, no-nonsense style, Forward provides powerful, practical strategies for blackmail targets, including checklists, practice scenarios and concrete communications techniques that will strengthen relationships and break the blackmail cycle for good.
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Download and read online Getting Up When You re Feeling Down in PDF and EPUB You've got your health, a good job and a family you love. So why do you find yourself feeling down? Every woman experiences the fatigue, guilt, irritability, low self-esteem, and lack of energy commonly called "the blues." But as Dr. Braiker explains, you can change how you feel, and she provides you with the tools to overcome and manage blue moods. You will learn how to determine the cause of low moods, avoid bouts of the blues, regulate your worries and build your self-esteem. With her three-step Triple A program, Dr. Braiker reveals all the secrets of psychological fitness that have worked for hundreds of her patients, so women won't ever have to feel "down" again.
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