Download and read online Who s Pulling Your Strings in PDF and EPUB Offers a program to free yourself from manipulators - people who control through emotional manipulation, insults, and mind games. This book helps you end a destructive relationship, understand how it occurred and prevent you from getting involved in a manipulative relationship again. It includes self-assessment quizzes and action plans.
Download and read online Emotional Vampires Dealing with People Who Drain You Dry Revised and Expanded 2nd Edition in PDF and EPUB Protect yourself from people who take undue advantage and suck the energy out of your life Emotional Vampires will help you cope effectively with the people in your life that confound you, confuse you, and seem to sap every ounce of your energy. Bestselling author Dr. Al Bernstein shows you how to recognize each vampire type--antisocial, histrionic, narcissists, obsessive-compulsives, paranoids--and deal with them effectively. He uses many examples from the latest news headlines, which will help you distinguish between the types and deepen your understanding of each one. In response to the daily calls and emails he got about the previous edition of this book, Dr. Al Bernstein has added his advice for dealing with those emotional vampires who come in the shape of spouses and lovers, relatives, and children. Dr. Bernstein shows you how to deal with each vampire type and what you need to do to keep from getting drained.
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Download and read online In Sheep s Clothing in PDF and EPUB Modern permissiveness and the new culture of entitlement allows disturbed people to reach adulthood without proper socialization. In a book meant both for the general public and for professionals, bestselling author and psychologist George Simon explains in plain English: -How most disturbed characters think. -The habitual behaviors the disturbed use to avoid responsibility and to manipulate, deceive, and exploit others. -Why victims in relationships with disturbed characters do not get help they need from traditional therapies. -A straightforward guide to recognizing and understanding all relevant personality types, especially those most likely to undermine relationships. -A new framework for making sense of the crazy world many find themselves in when there's a disturbed character in their lives. -Concrete principles that promote responsibility and positive change when engaging disturbed characters. -Tactics (for both lay persons and therapists) to lessen the chances for victimization and empower those who would otherwise be victims in their relationships with many types of disturbed characters.
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Download and read online Getting Up When You re Feeling Down in PDF and EPUB You've got your health, a good job and a family you love. So why do you find yourself feeling down? Every woman experiences the fatigue, guilt, irritability, low self-esteem, and lack of energy commonly called "the blues." But as Dr. Braiker explains, you can change how you feel, and she provides you with the tools to overcome and manage blue moods. You will learn how to determine the cause of low moods, avoid bouts of the blues, regulate your worries and build your self-esteem. With her three-step Triple A program, Dr. Braiker reveals all the secrets of psychological fitness that have worked for hundreds of her patients, so women won't ever have to feel "down" again.
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Download and read online Code of the Street Decency Violence and the Moral Life of the Inner City in PDF and EPUB Unsparing and important. . . . An informative, clearheaded and sobering book.—Jonathan Yardley, Washington Post (1999 Critic's Choice) Inner-city black America is often stereotyped as a place of random violence, but in fact, violence in the inner city is regulated through an informal but well-known code of the street. This unwritten set of rules—based largely on an individual's ability to command respect—is a powerful and pervasive form of etiquette, governing the way in which people learn to negotiate public spaces. Elijah Anderson's incisive book delineates the code and examines it as a response to the lack of jobs that pay a living wage, to the stigma of race, to rampant drug use, to alienation and lack of hope.
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